Vernon Howard wrote, “We lose enemies when no longer having a false need for them.”
WOW! What a powerful and accountable viewpoint.
We lose enemies to our self-expression, or threats to our person, or the experience of other people resisting our life expression, when we no longer have a false need for their behaviors or stimuli. I interpret this as “No one is against us and every thing and every one is FOR us. Or, at the very least, these things are there for our benefit.”
One example might be: When we have eliminated our doubt or uncertainty about some aspect of our life, when we are clear about the life we want, people don’t challenge us about that which we were doubting. It never even occurs to them. They doubt us because we get them to.
Every thing and every one in our life gives us feedback or information about our OWN point of view.
Everything and everyone helps us to awaken and to see where we are “on the map” in our life. This is tremendously good news! With this viewpoint we can experience every aspect of our life as a blessing. We can experience every person and every event as a gift we have given ourselves to awaken to how we are defining and interpreting our life. With this information, if we like the outcome, we can reinforce our point of view. And if we don’t like the outcome, we can change our point of view. The liberation potential is HUGE!
If may be hard at times to keep this point of view, such as when we get fired or divorced or experience illness or injury or financial crisis. However, if we can look at these events as supportive of our awakening, then maybe, just maybe, we can learn something about ourselves and can move into the experience FROM power and awareness, FROM the possibility of betterment.
It has been said many times and ways: “Whatever you focus on expands in life.” Well, there you have it!
Would focusing on how awful it is help to create an experience of possibility, or would it create an experience of victim-hood and potential despair?
When we look for possibilities and potential in a situation, we feel like we are more in the driver’s seat than when we feel at the effect of the same situation. And by definition, we can also see more possibilities and potential when we look FROM that point of view.
It’s hard to see wildflowers while focusing on the thickness of the forest.
If you find an enemy in your life, give up the false need for that enemy and see what you might create from the situation.